My deep desire to bring the inner dialog about death outward is how this website came to pass. My life-changing experiences with death and dying taught me there is so much we can learn from death. Death can be a spiritually healing experience for us. When we learn to embrace death, we no longer fear life. When we no longer live from fear we can love and live fully.
It is my hope that in sharing mine and other’s journeys through darkness, we can:
- Gain peace of mind discussing death and dying with family and friends
- Be fully present at end of life with those we love
- Help survivers live life more fully, authentically and peacefully
Since my grandfather’s death, I’ve been called to assist in similar ways at end of life. I’ve been honored to walk with my Godfather, who suddenly and unexpectedly died in March of 2016. His quick, intentional, transition to the other side was graceful and chosen.
The Master of Love
He wasn’t coherent in this physical reality due to the brain cancer he took on just days before his death, but his messages from the other side were very profound. His death revealed the Master of Love that he was, though to the naked eye he was wearing the costume of an ordinary, hard-working father and husband. Through him I experienced the most amazing energy of love. In quiet moments, I gleaned a perspective on the soul’s choice to sacrifice itself for the greater good. Because I couldn’t translate the feelings I had during his transition, I built an altar beside a lit candle that burned night and day until he transitioned.
Barbara the Light Bearer
At the time of my Godfather’s death, I had been working with a woman named Barbara for about 3 months. I had met her in the Fall of 2015. At that time her light was bright and she did not look like a woman who was dying, even though others said she was. She would work for many months more as she learned to let go of this material world. Oh, how she delighted in the beauty of this material world!
During the last few weeks of my life, I would walk with her in dreamtime. One evening, at the top of a nearby parking garage, I received a phone call from her daughter who had been visiting her. It was that night I took a special walk to the other side. The visions I saw were amazing. They were so real and the energy I felt as I looked at all the “worlds created” revealed a deep sense of peace along with profound love.
Barbara gifted me with two lessons during a conversation we had just two weeks before she died. She asked me never to forget them. I promised I wouldn’t.
Lessons for Living
The first lesson was, in her words, “All there is is love. It is all love.” The second lesson was the secret to living a good life. I’m paraphrasing her words, but they went something like this: “I’m going to give you the secret to life…life is only about choice. In each decision we make we can make a choice to see the light that is right above our heads or we can choose to stay in darkness…the time between birth and death is simply about experiences we have through making choices.” She added, “We can choose to go towards the light or not. Don’t forget that.”
Barbara “became whole” and died a peaceful death on June 1st of 2016.
Initiation, not Vocation
What’s interesting to me is that I don’t do this work because it is my job. I am called to the side of those who need me and those I need. Each time I walk with death, I am given the opportunity to assist and be assisted. And each time I am touched by death, I lean more into my own life. So I continue to lean into this work, never knowing where I am going next. I’d love for you to join me.
In December of 2017, I interviewed Barbara from the other side via her daughter, Susan. To read the wisdom she had to share with us from the other side, click here.
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